48 Laws of Power: Law #34 Be Royal in Your Own Fashion: Act Like A King to Be Treated Like One

Law 34: Be royal in your own fashion: act like a king to be treated like one

  •      The way you carry yourself determines how you’re treated
  •      Appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you
  •      Kings respect themselves and inspire the same in others
  •      By acting confident you make yourself destined to wear a crown

This law ties in well with the one about arguing with people. What is seen is always far more potent than what is heard. You can go on and on to someone about this, that and the other thing: the things you do to improve yourself, know how on any topic, etc. They will never receive the message as fully as when they see you killing it yourself.

Walk into a room with dominant body language and a grounded mental state and anything you do thereafter will be seen in the frame of a king amongst his subjects, something you could never convince someone of in words.

Assume the sale. Lack of a red light is is your green light. Every 8/10 and above desperately wants you. This has to be the reality you bring her into. Hot girls will walk right past you on the sidewalk and not even look in your direction. It’s all on you to stop her. Natural selection literally rules out the men who are too scared to lead, too timid to escalate, too afraid to approach. Women are betas. They will not steer your ship, they will find someone who knows how to be a captian.

“You know what a Queen is? She’s the Kings bitch.” -Patrice O’Neal

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48 Laws of Power: Law #13 When Asking For Help, appeal to People’s Self-Interest, Never to Their Mercy

Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people’s self-interest, never to their mercy

  •      Do not remind people of past deeds.
  •      Find something that will benefit them and emphasize it out of proportion.

I wouldn’t say I disagree with this law, instead I have a different method.

As the God of Networking outlines in Never Eat Alone the key to getting what you want from your contacts is… GENEROSITY.

There is a law(forgot the name) that when you do something for people, when they return the favor they will be compelled to do something bigger. Think about it guys, if you go out with a new acquaintance and he pays for the drinks, the next time you go out it feels somewhat improper if you just paid for the drinks again, so you are compelled to do something more e.g. buy him/her a lunch.

So now you know you have to give in order to get.

With regards to gifts, it’s not about the money, it’s about the experience.

Sure expensive liquor and a fancy lunch are impressive, but top execs get that all the time. So in order to stand out, you gift them a good experience, a good feeling.

  • I remember in a podcast how Noah Kagan(entrepreneur) got together with one of senior people in Reddit. He found out the guy was an avid runner, got him a nice pair of running shoes and a year-long subscription to a runner’s magazine. The guy didn’t care about the shoes or the magazine, but the fact that Noah took the time to know him, impressed him. He got $20,000 worth of advertising space on Reddit for $1,000 in return!

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #12 Use Selective Honesty & Generosity to Disarm Your Victim

Law 12: Use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your victim

  •      One sincere move will cover over a dozen dishonest ones.
  •      Honesty can bring down the guard of suspicious people.
  •      Open their shield with honesty, then deceive.

Selective generosity should be used as positive reinforcement for good behaviour. I like to keep a bit of chocolate on me. If a bitch goes and makes me my coffee I’ll offer her some of my chocolate and a bit of attention. If she is NOT annoying or I find her genuinely pleasant, I’ll give her attention/chocolate. Sounds hilarious but it’s amazing what your attention and a bit of cheap chocolate can do to alter other people’s behaviour, women particularly. It’s completely harmless and if anyone notices it and calls you on it you say “Well you don’t give people things who won’t do things for you, do you?” spinny spin spin, plausible deniability and a chuckle is all it takes.

Selective generosity can also be about making people feel indebted to you. The reverse law is law 40 – “despise the free lunch.” It basically plays on the Benjamin franklin effect (google it) so that people give you back more than you gave them at a later date. Like say when we first meet I insist on buying all your drinks. First impressions are strong. The next 3 times you meet me you’ll probably be happy to get at least half my drinks, which will total more than what I got you the first time. Why? Because your first impression of me was I was such a generous guy now it has clicked in your brain you don’t mind getting me stuff because “I’m the kinda guy who would do that for you.” And as long as I’m not obvious about trying to get free stuff out of you, you won’t care (unless you’re the kinda guy who is dirt poor, but then you’re gonna be frugal and rarely socialise anyway.)

As a businessman who is even mildly successful you should always budget some money for taking people out to lunch. Not just any people, not women, but people who you want contracts from. Always pay for their food, charm the fuck out of them, that’s how you get big deals and get paid. Fuck if you cant get a direct meal you may have to do that with their right hand just so you can go and do the whole thing all over again with them once the right hand “OK’s you.” Some businessmen are cautious like that and get people to do stuff like meet potential clients on their behalf because that person is unproven and they don’t wanna waste their own time vetting the guy. Take note tradesmen, you can’t take the building site demeanour into the damn restaurant.

Selective honesty is a deeper topic, I wanted to keep this brief so I’m not going to say much more other than lies can borrow credibility from half-truths, trickle truth is a form of selective honesty (admitting to something less contemptible that you did while omitting the worst that you did.)

Also, if someone is suspicious of you/low trust, being really forthcoming about loads of information that cannot be weaponised against you (it’s too impersonal, or you’ve just made it all up) is a good way to win trust.

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