48 Laws Of Power: Law #41 Avoid Stepping Into A Great Man’s Shoes

Law 41: Avoid stepping into a great man’s shoes

  •      What happens first always appears better and more original than what’s next
  •      Following great people means you must double their power
  •      Gain power by shining in your own way

Relationships

Don’t date a woman who was previously with a “Great man”

If she dated a successful man who treated her well and “fell in love” avoid her because you’ll never “be better than he was” at best you can hope to be is equal in her eyes. All he has to do it is show up and whatever you think you have with her is gone. Even if he doesn’t show up, you’ll never be “her true love” you’re just the poor replacement for a relationship she wish worked out .

If her father is some top dude, you’ll never meet the expectations she has for men because her father was SUPER successful. Avoid those spoiled princesses with the super alpha daddy. You’ll never fit into the gigantic shoes daddy left empty.

There are lots of examples of this law in play.

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #40 Despise The Free Lunch

Law 40: Despise the free lunch

  •      What’s offered for free in dangerous
  •      Pay your own way to avoid guilt and gratitude
  •      No cutting corners with excellence
  •      Be lavish with your money, keep it circulating
  •      Generosity is a sign and magnet for power

When you receive something for free from someone, you are inherently indebted to that person. That person then has power over you and you can be sure that person will capitalize on their investment in the future.

A successful man is one with power and influence over many. Have people do small favors for you in order to increase comfort with you. If you can afford it, when you go out with a friend offer to buy them lunch or a drink if you’re at a bar–not often enough for them to take you for granted, but as a means to get them to “owe you one.”

This is probably one of the best laws to follow if your aim is to be independent.

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #39 Stir Up Waters To Catch Fish

Law 39: Stir up waters to catch fish

  •      Anger and emotion is counterproductive
  •      Stay calm and objective
  •      Make enemies emotional while you stay calm
  •      Rattle your enemies

Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #38 Think As You Like But Behave Like Others

Law 38: Think as you like but behave like others

  •      By flaunting your unconventional ways people will only think you want attention
  •      They’ll punish you for making them feel inferior
  •      Blend in

In government buildings and other feminine dominated environments I act like a beta faggot. It’s necessary to get ahead. In the clubs? Full gorilla mode. That’s what this law is. You need to be able to turn your beta on and off at the drop of a hat. Being alpha everywhere 24/7 does not reap the greatest results. This links in with law 48 – be formless. Like water, fill up the volume of the social space you’re in. If beta gets you the most benefits, be beta. If beta is frowned upon and in the new environment alphas get all the respect/pussy – be alpha. Alpha thrives in male dominated environments like building sites and gyms. Alpha is always respectable, but it’s also scary, especially to women/betas/omegas/people with power who don’t want to be overthrown etc. If you scare people with power too much, they won’t help you/look at you favourably. You must play beta (law 1 – don’t outshine.) I know we’d all like to be alpha all the time and thrive in that endeavour, but that’s foolish miscalibration. The nail that sticks out gets hammered.

“Everyone sees what you seem to be, but few touch what you are.” Machiavelli

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48 Laws of Power: Law #37 Create Compelling Spectacles

Law 37: Create compelling spectacles

  •      Striking imagery and symbolic gestures create the auro of power and people respond
  •      Stage spectacles for those around you and heighten your presence
  •      Dazzle by appearance

Take some time to think about how your gesturing is perceived by others.

How do you think others perceive you when you’re gesturing is fast and frantic? Does it match your intent? How about when your gestures are slow and relaxed?

Are your movements rigid/tense, rather than smooth? (Try various techniques you can find online to relax yourself. Breathing techniques help me. There’s a reason most people exhale during the concentric phase of a weight lift. It helps me stabilize.)

Also, while doing gestures, it’s generally better to be generous with them. If they’re tiny gestures, and your arms are still close to your chest, you appear scrunched up, defensive, and smaller than you are. It just diminishes your presence and is harder for people farther away from you to see what you are trying to do. Note that wider gestures require more movement so it might subconsciously encourage you to move faster than you want or need.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #36 Disdain Things You Cannot Have: Ignoring Them Is The Best Revenge

Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have: ignoring them is the best revenge

  •      Acknowledging petty problems gives them existence
  •      When you acknowledge an enemy you make them stronger
  •      The more you a mistake visible, the worse it gets
  •      If you want something but can’t have it, disdain it
  •      The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem

“I think ignoring something you cannot have is fine. Just because somebody has something you want doesn’t mean you owe them anything like attention or validation. Showing active contempt signals juvenility and that yes you want that and no you can’t have it and therefor lowers your value.”

I’m pointing this out because the words “indifference” and “contempt” are used interchangeably here, but are actually worlds apart. If you want to seem powerful, show indifference. If you want to seem petty, show contempt.

Why? Because there’s a huge difference between showing contempt and showing indifference. In my experience, people who show contempt for something usually desire it a great deal. For an example from this sub, think about girls complaining about how much they “hate douchebags and assholes.” For an example from my personal life, I used to soak up greedily and articles that talked about how useless an Ivy League degree is, until I realized I was doing so because I really wish I could go back, work harder in high school and go to an Ivy League school. Most people are aware of this effect of contempt=secret desire, at least to the level at which they can recognize it in others, if not themselves.

On the other hand, showing indifference towards a thing does seem to convey power over that thing. It’s why the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. It’s the difference between poor people decrying the hedonism of the rich (desire), and Warren Buffett living a simple life (indifference).

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48 Laws of Power: Law #35 Master The Art of Timing

Law 35: Master the art of timing

  •      Never seem in a hurry, always seem patient
  •      Sniff out the spirit of the times, find the trends that’ll give you power
  •      Learn to stand back when not ready, and then strike

First, BUY A WATCH. Yes, even in the 21st century when we all have phones in our pockets a watch is still a valuable tool. Having the exact time in your field of vision at almost all times is crucial when it comes to timing. It wasn’t until I started wearing a watch and keeping track of my time that I realized I was always in a hurry when I had no need to be. I always like to arrive early to places (if you are on time, you are late) and I always felt in a hurry, but I started to actually use time to my advantage.

Next, you have to let time work for you. Know that THE TIME WILL PASS ANYWAY. If you are choosing to waste your time looking at cats on youtube or whatever, just realize that time is going to pass no matter what. Take the time to think if that is how you want to be spending your time. Sure it is, you don’t have to do things til later right? Wrong. YOU CAN DO THEM NOW. Time now is the same as time later. A second is a second, an hour is an hour. Don’t waste them when you can use them.

Lastly, you will never be seen as hurried, if you are already done. If you get on top of problems IMMEDIATELY you will be in complete control of your time. Don’t be the person working on things, that process can take as long as you let it. You want to be the person already done. Do it early, do it right, do it once. This also makes it so you don’t have the weight of all these deadlines or works in progress to complete.

Timing is Crucial!!

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