48 Laws Of Power: Law #44 Disarm & Infuriate With The Mirror Effect

Law 44: Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect

  •      When you mirror exactly what your enemies do, they cannot figure out your strategy
  •      The mirror effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact
  •      Hold a mirror to their psyches and you’ll seduce them and they’ll think they share your values
  •      Mirror their actions and they learn lessons

I always felt this law kind of overlapped a lot with the other laws. At least in the way I interpreted it. I figured the law means to mirror what others are currently saying/doing so that they feel that you are “one of the group.” Other laws that touch on this include:

  • Pose as a friend, work as a spy
  • Think as you like, but behave like others
  • Never outshine the master
  • Always say less than necessary

The other way I’ve heard this law interpreted is to “mirror” your opponent to mock them. Obviously this causes them to get angry and lose frame. A powerful way to discredit your opponent.

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #43 Work On The Hearts & Minds Of Others

Law 43: Work on the hearts and minds of others

  •      Coercion will work against you
  •      Seduce others into wanting to move in your direction
  •      Seduce others by operating on their individual psychologies and weaknesses
  •      Soften them by working their emotions and what they fear
  •      Ignore the hearts and minds and they will grow to hate you

Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.

A way to do this is just to listen. Sit with others and get them to open up with you. Don’t be a conversational narcissist. All humans struggle with this because when we hear someone mention they like Disney land or sports cars or yoga. We run it through our own filter, “what do I know about yoga.” Then we steer the conversation towards ourselves. Instead of doing this run the conversation through a filter of the other persons, emotions, motivations and character traits. Example:

Girl: “I love yoga”

Guy: “Awesome, you must be dedicated to learn all those different moves.”

Girl: “I went to Disney land with my niece last week and had a blast:

Guy: “I bet your niece really had fun with you and made you feel like a great aunt. That’s generous of you to take time out of your week to do that.”

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #42 Strike The Shepherd & The Sheep Will Scatter

Law 42: Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter

  •      Trouble can be traced to a single individual
  •      These people will influence others
  •      Do not negotiate but banish them
  •      Strike at the source of the trouble

Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.

What can we learn from this law?

  • Within any group, trouble can be traced to a single source, the unhappy, chronically unsatisfied one who stirs up dissension and infects the group. Recognize troublemakers by their complaining nature. Separate him from the group.

Remove toxic people from your life.

  • In every group power is concentrated in the hands of one or two people. Human nature shows people will orbit around a single strong personality.

Most of the people are sheeps, waiting for their shepherd to lead them down the path.

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #41 Avoid Stepping Into A Great Man’s Shoes

Law 41: Avoid stepping into a great man’s shoes

  •      What happens first always appears better and more original than what’s next
  •      Following great people means you must double their power
  •      Gain power by shining in your own way

Relationships

Don’t date a woman who was previously with a “Great man”

If she dated a successful man who treated her well and “fell in love” avoid her because you’ll never “be better than he was” at best you can hope to be is equal in her eyes. All he has to do it is show up and whatever you think you have with her is gone. Even if he doesn’t show up, you’ll never be “her true love” you’re just the poor replacement for a relationship she wish worked out .

If her father is some top dude, you’ll never meet the expectations she has for men because her father was SUPER successful. Avoid those spoiled princesses with the super alpha daddy. You’ll never fit into the gigantic shoes daddy left empty.

There are lots of examples of this law in play.

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #40 Despise The Free Lunch

Law 40: Despise the free lunch

  •      What’s offered for free in dangerous
  •      Pay your own way to avoid guilt and gratitude
  •      No cutting corners with excellence
  •      Be lavish with your money, keep it circulating
  •      Generosity is a sign and magnet for power

When you receive something for free from someone, you are inherently indebted to that person. That person then has power over you and you can be sure that person will capitalize on their investment in the future.

A successful man is one with power and influence over many. Have people do small favors for you in order to increase comfort with you. If you can afford it, when you go out with a friend offer to buy them lunch or a drink if you’re at a bar–not often enough for them to take you for granted, but as a means to get them to “owe you one.”

This is probably one of the best laws to follow if your aim is to be independent.

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