48 Laws Of Power: Law #46 Never Appear Too Perfect

Law 46: Never appear too perfect

  •      Its dangerous to appear like you have no thoughts
  •      Its ok to admit to small defects

Human perfection is only an illusion.

The more one tries to ‘appear’ to be, the harsher the scrutiny becomes also. The expectation and the disappointment, the pressure.

This is mentioned in “How to Win Friends and Influence People“.

“If we know we are going to be rebuked anyhow, isn’t it far better to beat the other person to it and do it ourselves? Isn’t it much easier to listen to self-criticism than to bear condemnation from alien lips? ”

Similar solid advice when on an interview, you will almost always be asked what your weaknesses are. “None” is the wrong answer. The correct answer is to, readily admit your faults in areas that don’t matter. It will make you more approachable without making you look bad.

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #43 Work On The Hearts & Minds Of Others

Law 43: Work on the hearts and minds of others

  •      Coercion will work against you
  •      Seduce others into wanting to move in your direction
  •      Seduce others by operating on their individual psychologies and weaknesses
  •      Soften them by working their emotions and what they fear
  •      Ignore the hearts and minds and they will grow to hate you

Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.

A way to do this is just to listen. Sit with others and get them to open up with you. Don’t be a conversational narcissist. All humans struggle with this because when we hear someone mention they like Disney land or sports cars or yoga. We run it through our own filter, “what do I know about yoga.” Then we steer the conversation towards ourselves. Instead of doing this run the conversation through a filter of the other persons, emotions, motivations and character traits. Example:

Girl: “I love yoga”

Guy: “Awesome, you must be dedicated to learn all those different moves.”

Girl: “I went to Disney land with my niece last week and had a blast:

Guy: “I bet your niece really had fun with you and made you feel like a great aunt. That’s generous of you to take time out of your week to do that.”

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48 Laws of Power: Law #32 Play To People’s Fantasies

Law 32: Play to people’s fantasies

  •      The truth is unpleasant, avoid it
  •      People that manufacture romance are like oases in the desert
  •      There’s great power in tapping into people’s fantasies

I love this one. People will believe what they prefer to believe over anything else. Spin the illusion of grandeur and you will be treated accordingly. Men treat men the way they perceive others treat them. Watch any nobility or truly powerful man move through a crowded room. There’s a reason UN representatives are always trying to be the last one to enter a room.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #31 Control The Opinions: Get Others to Play With The Cards You Deal

Law 31: Control the opinions: get others to play with the cards you deal

  •      The best deceptions seem to give the other person a choice
  •      Give options so no matter their choice, you win

From the book!

Once upon a time there was a king of Armenia, who, being of a curious turn of mind and in need of some new diversion, sent his heralds throughout the land to make the following proclamation: “Hear this! Whatever man among you can prove himself the most outrageous liar in Armenia shall receive an apple made of pure gold from the hands of His Majesty the King!” People began to swarm to the palace from every town and hamlet in the country, people of all ranks and conditions, princes, merchants, farmers, priests, rich and poor, tall and short, fat and thin. There was no lack of liars in the land, and each one told his tale to the king. A ruler, however, has heard practically every sort of lie, and none of those now told him convinced the king that he had listened to the best of them. The king was beginning to grow tired of his new sport and was thinking of calling the whole contest off without declaring a winner, when there appeared before him a poor, ragged man, carrying a large earthenware pitcher under his arm. “What can I do for you?” asked His Majesty. “Sire!” said the poor man, slightly bewildered “Surely you remember? You owe me a pot of gold, and I have come to collect it.” “You are a pet feet liar, sir!’ exclaimed the king ”I owe you no money’” ”A perfect liar, am I?” said the poor man. ”Then give me the golden apple!” The king, realizing that the man was Irving to trick him. started to hedge. ”No. no! You are not a liar!” ”Then give me the pot of gold you owe me. sire.” said the man. The king saw the dilemma, He handed over the golden apple.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #30 Make Your Accomplishments Seem Effortless

Law 30: Make your accomplishments seem effortless

  •      Conceal the clever tricks
  •      Make your success seem natural
  •      Do not reveal how hard you work
  •      Teach no one your tricks

I know people who post 5 “gym status updates” a week but they are fat and unattractive. They want people to know they are going to the gym because it’s all about the validation. By contrast I run and lift a few times a week but I never ever tell anyone about it. Women want to believe they are with a naturally strong, masculine man. They don’t want to know that you used to be a skinny-fat social retard. They want the finished product. The more “natural” it seems the higher value you have as a result. They don’t care about your struggle and even admitting that you struggled is a sign that you are less fit. Staying tight lipped about your efforts is the best way to appear effortless.

I think the same thing applies to women. She should remain fit, attractive, dress in a cute style, and wear an appropriate level of makeup that accentuates her feminine features. If she does these things but complains that it took her an hour to get ready and it’s really hard for her to stick to her yoga routine and diet because she prefers watching TV and eating cake I am getting a big red flag that her femininity isn’t natural, isn’t effortless, and therefore it may one day go away. Women don’t want a “temporary” alpha any more than men want a “temporary” feminine woman. Stay quiet about your efforts to improve and make yourself attractive and successful.

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