48 Laws Of Power: Law #10 Infection: Avoid the Unhappy & Unlucky

Law 10: Infection: Avoid the unhappy and the unlucky

  •      You’ll die from other’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as diseases.
  •      The unfortunate draw misfortune on themselves and will draw it on you.
  •      Associate with the happy and fortunate.

People are selfish by nature so it only make sense that they try to find someone to share the pain with. They believe it lightens the load rather than just creating more misery.

Anyone who ever got into trouble as a kid knows this feeling. Going to the principal’s office always felt better when you were going with your boys than facing that dickhead by yourself. People don’t really grow out of this mindset: they lack the emotional maturity to deal with their problems on their own

It goes back to the concept of creating value. Those who create attract other people into their sphere of influence. However, some of those they attract are parasites, even if they don’t realize it. They find value and they suck it out due to the fact that they are incapable of creating it on their own. You are a landlord, they are squatters.

“Misery loves company sums this one up.”

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48 Laws Of Power: Law #9 Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument

Law 9: Win through your actions, never through argument

  •      You never win through argument.
  •      The resentment last long.
  •      It’s more powerful to agree with actions.
  •      Demonstrate, do not explain.

The core of this law is that you should avoid arguments at all costs. If you start an argument you will automatically put your opposite on the defensive and thus make it much harder to persuade him!

Example: You work in sales and have a customer who talks nicely about his current product. You tell him how awesome your product is and belittle his purchase. An argument arises and maybe you will be able to convince him, that your product really is a much better choice and that he wasted his money. Big success! You walk out of the door with the feeling “Oh boy I showed him!” but without any sale. You both lose. Better try a more subtle approach, agree with him (no matter how stupid he sounds) and prove him wrong following the principle of don’t explicate, demonstrate

If you were invited to a dinner and the host thinks a quote from Shakespeare was actually made by Mickey Mouse, why argue? You have nothing at all to gain. Think of him as a fool and get over your ego. If you can’t get over your ego and have the urge to prove him wrong, take out your phone, say well I might be wrong but I believe this quote comes from Shakespeare and show him the source of the quote. This will make him resent you less than if you would start an argument.

ALWAYS ASK YOURSELF: What’s in it for me, what is to be gained if I start an argument.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #8 Make Other People Come to You – Use Bait If Necessary

Law 8: Make other people come to you – use bait if necessary

  •      When you force others to act, you’re in control.
  •      Make opponents come to you.
  •      Lure with gains, then attack.

Bring people into your reality. Do not bend and stretch to accommodate the lesser – attract them, genuinely or not, and wait. This is the fine line that separates the puppet from the master. This is pulling others into your frame.

This has been epitomized countless times in The Manosphere:

  • Don’t go on a date with a girl if her friends are present
  • In an LTR, you both operate in one reality – yours or hers
  • Maintain frame (often over-used and under-explained)

Real Power is the degree to which a person has control over their own circumstances. Real Power is the degree to which we control the directions of our lives. – Rollo Tomassi

Real power is putting your entire reality above everything and everyone else. It is a my way or the highway mentality. It is you being the master, the boss, the King.

Luring: In the chapter, Greene talks about using bait to lure your enemies into your reality, giving you ultimate control. When luring others, you must appeal to their self-interest. Find their motivations and weaknesses. Put yourself in their position – see through their eyes, and give them what they want need. Make them an offer they can’t refuse…

Pull them into your reality; into your frame. Act. Do not react.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #7 Get Others to Do he Work For You, But Always Take the Credit

Law 7: Get others to do the work for you, but always take credit

  •      Use the skills of others to do the work for you, never do yourself what others can do for you.
  •      Your efficiency will appear god-like.

A great example of this law would be Steve Jobs. He is revered as a legend. He certainly was extremely important to Apple’s success but he never actually developed any of Apple’s products going all the way back to when Wozniacki actually built the first Mac. Most people seem to think he single-handedly came up with the Mac, the iPod, iPhone, iTunes and the iPad. This of course is not true. He masterfully marketed Apple’s products and himself. But he always had very talented and skilled people doing the actual nitty gritty work of developing Apple’s products. He became a cult of personality and cultivated an almost magical aura about him. He could have farted in a can, called it the iFart and people would have lined up for hours in front of Apple stores to spend their hard earned money on it.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #6 Court Attention At All Cost

Law 6: Court attention at all cost

  •      Everything is judged by appearance, what is unseen counts for nothing.
  •      Never get lost in a crowd.
  •      Be mysterious, appear more colorful than the masses.

Court attention at all costs- when you do something good or outstanding, make sure it is known by everyone. No point in being awesome at what you do if nobody knows about it or, even worse, somebody else is taking credit for your own work. I knew plenty of good, hard working coworkers who were let go because ultimately the boss or whoever else never knew how good he actually was at his job and how much work he did “behind the scenes” for the company. Hard work is literally a waste of time and energy if no one knows how hard and how good you actually work.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #5 So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with Your Life

Law 5: So much depends on reputation – guard it with your life

  •      Reputation is the cornerstone of power.
  •      Reputation alone will make you win.
  •      Destroy enemies by attacking their reputation.

Be aware of your current reputation and live up to it!

A few summers back, my usual group of friends would hang around in a water park. Once, the son of the richest guy in our town decided to join us. We were all in awe…for about 15 minutes.

When he came, we immediately moved aside to offer him a seat and whenever he spoke, we’d quickly shut up and turn to listen to him. He instead, really let himself go. He started telling us he was late bcs his mother didn’t approve of his boxers. Oookay??! As we didn’t laugh frantically, he followed with more examples of how ‘lame’ his mom was.

awkward silence

In about 14 minutes the dude proceeded to destroy the reputation that he held as “the son of one of the richest and most respected men in town” to an “awkward, lame dude”.

To be honest he was an alright kid, but because he failed to live up to our expectations based on his families reputation, we thought even less of him.

It took less than 15 minutes to destroy a families reputation that took decades to build.

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48 Laws of Power: Law #4 Always Say Less Than Necessary

Law 4: Always say less than necessary

  •      When trying to impress, the more you say the more common you look and less in control.
  •      Be vague.
  •      Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less.
  •      He who asks the questions is in control
  • It is better to say nothing than to promise something that you don’t follow through on. In such cases, your mouth is making you sin. And don’t defend yourself by telling the Temple messenger that the promise you made was a mistake. That would make God angry, and he might wipe out everything you have achieved. Ergo don’t make promises you can’t keep. (unless you would benefit greatly from doing so obviously)
  • So let’s now look at an example. Your child has been disrespectful, so you attempt to discipline them, but they are oppositional and increasingly rude. You pull out all the tried and true parenting techniques from your parenting book, but none of them work! The situation is escalating. YOU YELL BACK AND EXPRESS HOW ANGRY YOU ARE WITH YOUR CHILD. Finally, your son/daughter is quiet and sadly sulks to their room. You won! But what exactly has expressing your anger done for you? Your child is angry with you, likely fearful of you, and is also less likely to respect you because you apparently cannot control yourself. Furthermore, you have taught your child that losing control of your anger is an acceptable way to deal with other people. Perhaps they will follow your rules for the time being, but not for long, especially now they have learned losing control is acceptable.
  • If you royally fucked something up, it often can be a wise move not trying to justify oneself but to remain silent about the matter and wait for the storm to subside than to draw unnecessary attention to it.

“Less is More”

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